Goal setting

Simple strategies to create what you want

8849765290_2f3a2551abSometimes, designing our life and work to be more fulfilling and fun is a challenge. Often, though, the biggest challenge we face is ourselves.

First off, we (all of us!) talk a lot about “getting what we want” and “having it all.” Think about that language for a second. (Hint: It’s passive.)

Designing is an active process. And it requires us to show up.

I experienced this recently while taking on a search for a new home. We wanted it to happen in a short timeframe. It’s not exactly a “buyer’s market” in Portland. We wanted seemingly opposing features. Inventory is low.

The first step in “getting what you want” is a willingness to step up and create it.

I was optimistic. I know from experience that there is a lot we can do to influence the experience we’re having — and the results we’re getting.

I like these four strategies for a start (and put them all to work):

The clarity factor. Far and away the most difficult part of creating more of what you want is to be really clear on what this is. It sounds like a no-brainer. And yet, it’s not. I find that few people are all that clear on what they want– and more importantly, why they want it. “I don’t know.” is not an acceptable answer here. Neither is “it doesn’t matter” or any other avoidant answer. Continue Reading

Have it your way: rethinking your rules

“I think where I am having trouble is that I don’t play by the rules,” Jane* said to me last week.

“Congratulations,” I responded. “Which rules are those?”

I’ve been scolded for not “playing by the rules” myself, so I get it. And like Jane, I used to think this was a problem.

Not playing by the rules was not at all what was causing Jane trouble. The problem was that she wasn’t defining the rules that she was willing to play by.

In fact, a lot of what happens in personal and professional growth is about examining and understanding our rules.

Designing your life, creating work that excites you, and crafting your own work-life blend all require you to pay attention and make conscious decisions about which rules you are following and which you’re not. It’s also about making up (and breaking) your own rules where necessary.

Rules can be incredibly empowering.

They can also be stifling. The choice is yours.

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