Simple strategies to create what you want

8849765290_2f3a2551abSometimes, designing our life and work to be more fulfilling and fun is a challenge. Often, though, the biggest challenge we face is ourselves.

First off, we (all of us!) talk a lot about “getting what we want” and “having it all.” Think about that language for a second. (Hint: It’s passive.)

Designing is an active process. And it requires us to show up.

I experienced this recently while taking on a search for a new home. We wanted it to happen in a short timeframe. It’s not exactly a “buyer’s market” in Portland. We wanted seemingly opposing features. Inventory is low.

The first step in “getting what you want” is a willingness to step up and create it.

I was optimistic. I know from experience that there is a lot we can do to influence the experience we’re having — and the results we’re getting.

I like these four strategies for a start (and put them all to work):

The clarity factor. Far and away the most difficult part of creating more of what you want is to be really clear on what this is. It sounds like a no-brainer. And yet, it’s not. I find that few people are all that clear on what they want– and more importantly, why they want it. “I don’t know.” is not an acceptable answer here. Neither is “it doesn’t matter” or any other avoidant answer. Continue Reading

Imagining an empowered new year

As I have packed my belongings up in boxes and suitcases over the past several weeks, the new year has seemed to start a little early.

The promise of a new year brings a natural close and a fresh start. So does the end and beginning of a new day. And embracing and committing to new and unfolding pieces of your life.

Endings and beginnings are a time of fullness and possibility. And one always comes with the other. Tag-team style.

It’s when we take a look back and view the highlight reel. We revel (and indulge) in our favorite seasonal traditions. And we make all kinds of promises to ourselves as we start January with a clean slate. Continue Reading