Work-life balance

Have it your way: rethinking your rules

“I think where I am having trouble is that I don’t play by the rules,” Jane* said to me last week.

“Congratulations,” I responded. “Which rules are those?”

I’ve been scolded for not “playing by the rules” myself, so I get it. And like Jane, I used to think this was a problem.

Not playing by the rules was not at all what was causing Jane trouble. The problem was that she wasn’t defining the rules that she was willing to play by.

In fact, a lot of what happens in personal and professional growth is about examining and understanding our rules.

Designing your life, creating work that excites you, and crafting your own work-life blend all require you to pay attention and make conscious decisions about which rules you are following and which you’re not. It’s also about making up (and breaking) your own rules where necessary.

Rules can be incredibly empowering.

They can also be stifling. The choice is yours.

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