One of the most common phrases I hear as a coach is “I don’t know.”
It doesn’t matter what the question is, or who is asking it. It can be a powerful question, or it can be a mundane, simple inquiry. Sometimes, the question has not even been asked yet.
It’s a knee-jerk reaction.
It’s a habit.
So many of us get tied in knots by the habit of “I don’t know,” and it’s completely preventable.
The story goes something like this: I DON’T KNOW. That must mean something is wrong, no? It must mean something is wrong with me, right? It must be a sign not to move forward. A sign that more research needs to be done. Or a sign that I need fixing, that I am not doing this right.
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