7 life skills that make you more effective at work, too

In my work as a life & career coach, I believe strongly that life informs work and work informs life. That's why I blend my work as I do: because the artificial lines we draw between personal and professional don't serve most of us very well. If you want to be more impactful at work (as well as at home), consider this:

Creative networking, a flash resume and smart personal branding might get you in the door.

Performing consistently high-quality work and contributing to your organization’s strategic goals can help you move up the ladder.

But building a fulfilling and sustainable work life is just as often — and perhaps more often — about the life skills that you bring to everything that you do.

Here are 7 life skills that can greatly increase your effectiveness, enjoyment and impact:

Know what you want.

Creating a personal and professional strategic plan for yourself eliminates a lot of decision drama because you are grounding yourself in who you are and what is most important to you. It also gives you clear and coherent direction for action and criteria for evaluating opportunities. And yet, “What do you really, really want?” is still one of the toughest questions I ask as a coach. It stops many people cold. It elicits a laundry list of unrelated “goals” from others. Try asking this of yourself every day and watch what happens.

Trust yourself.

Learning to fully trust yourself is a lifelong practice, but it is one that is worth actively working on. This can look like:

Allowing that you want what you want (even when it’s an unconventional path)
Believing that you have or can develop the resources and capabilities you need (even when you’ve never done something before)
Edging out of your comfort zone (even when uncertainty makes you sweat)
Developing and respecting your intuition (even when that feels new for you)

Speak up, authentically.

Speaking up in an impactful way is a powerful skill, and you may have to move out of your comfort zone to practice it well. That doesn’t mean having all the answers or talking just to be visible. It’s about telling the truth to yourself and sharing your ideas with others. Your coach is a great place to start!

For example, one client of mine (we’ll call her Sarah), was highly respected and seen as an emerging leader in her organization. And yet, she was continually silent in meetings with senior staff. More important, she was silent to herself about what she really wanted to contribute and create. Telling the truth and speaking up to herself gave her the confidence and the motivation to speak up and share her ideas at work, too, quickly gaining her more responsibility and a promotion.

Set healthy boundaries.

Your physical and mental well-being are the biggest assets that you have, and yet we’re always outsourcing them. I’ve talked to a number of senior leaders who are earnestly working to build happier, healthier work cultures, but, as a few have pointed out, they can only provide the container and set the example. (One CEO I know who is making a big shift in his company culture has started walking around and asking his people to please leave the office on time.)

It’s easy to blame external obstacles for not setting our boundaries, but the truth is that we all need to make those choices for ourselves. Yes, sometimes that is hard, but we can take the steps. Close the door. Put buffers in your schedule. Hold shorter and more effective meetings. Take a walk at lunch. Hit the gym. Monotask. Leave on time. Do what it takes to manage your energy within the container that you’re given.

Listen more than you speak.

The smartest person in the room is often not the one holding court at meetings. The strongest leaders are the ones who put their phone down and have a conversation with their team members. One of the best skills you can master is the art of fully listening to your colleagues, managers, customers—well, everyone in your life. When you strive to listen more than you speak, you will learn more, understand more and create stronger relationships and more innovative solutions. Consider memorizing the WAIT (Why Am I Talking?) acronym or sticking it to your laptop screen.

Take responsibility.

Most people think about taking responsibility as owning when they screw up. That’s just one small piece. Take full responsibility for what you want, for what you are choosing, what your actions are creating and for the conversations and situations that you are putting your energy into. Take responsibility on work assignments that interest you.

When Sarah, the client above, took responsibility for her professional goals and her personal priorities, she was able to negotiate a promotion that delivered the more challenging work she craved without adding additional scheduling challenges or time away from her family.

Engage your curiosity.

Curiosity is one of the easiest ways to engage new thinking and create meaning or innovation in your work. Assume little and ask lots of questions: How does this process need to work? What do my customers truly want? What if we tried this instead? What are the trends we should be paying attention to?

It’s also a great relationship-builder: What is the other team trying to accomplish when they are (seemingly) putting roadblocks in our way? What do you think about this solution?

Consider, too, blurring the lines of personal and professional, as a way to bring new perspectives into your work. Personal pursuits or interests that stretch you and engage your curiosity and creativity make you a more well-rounded person— and that is an invaluable asset in an increasingly multi- disciplinary world.

A previous version of this post appeared on Noomii Career Blog.